Review of The Fourth Turning

If you have just a few pieces of a puzzle with tens of thousands of pieces and no reference picture, you won’t know what you’re looking at or how the pieces all fit together. As you gain more pieces, gradually you’ll get an idea of what the big picture looks like and how the pieces fit together. This is what The Fourth Turning offers, although instead of a cardboard puzzle, it offers insight into why events happen the way they do.

In The Fourth Turning, authors William Strauss and Neil Howe reject the notion of linear time, in which things just happen one after the other. They propose a theory of cyclical time, with similar events recurring at regular intervals and generational archetypes playing different roles as time progresses. Their theory describes four “turnings” that each last for approximately 20-25 years and that together comprise one “saeculum”, which lasts for 80-100 years. Each turning has its own advantages and disadvantages that distinguish it from the others, much like the seasons in a year. Most people only experience each turning once in life, which makes it difficult to notice patterns and symmetries without a thorough knowledge of history.

According to their theory, every saeculum proceeds as follows: the first turning is a High in which most things are going in the right direction if they’re not already there, an Awakening that has people question and push back against the status quo, an Unraveling that has old institutions and ways of life giving way to new ones, and a Crisis that threatens civilization itself. Although their book was published in 1997, the authors predicted that the Crisis would begin around 2005. If they’re correct, then we’ve made it through most of the hard times and can expect the High to start sometime in the next decade. Past Crises have seen massive wars, major economic depressions, political revolutions, and other events that had the potential to end civilization. There’s no guarantee that we’ll make it, but there’s quite the reward to be had on the other side if we’re successful.

The book cuts through philosophy, politics, and economics while incorporating history and psychology to formulate its central theory of cyclical time. In doing so, the authors give no impression that they favor any particular turning over another or have a preference regarding social order or political/religious philosophy. Their focus is purely on the patterns that have occurred throughout history and the implications that those patterns contain. Even though they invariably got some of their predictions wrong, they still managed to get most of the beats correct even if they missed some of the notes. Considering that the book was published about 20 years ago at the time of this writing, their predictions for events that have sense occurred almost give the impression of them having a crystal ball. This book will probably require read several readings to absorb the sheer amount of information and fine details it contains, although it’s still an easy read for a layperson.

If you’re feeling distressed about current events, reading The Fourth Turning will probably give you a renewed sense of optimism about the future. Knowing that there’s a rhythm to life and that major events can be predicted fairly easily once that rhythm is understood has completely changed my perspectives on a wide range of subjects and given me hours of wonderment about the world in which I live. For a much more thorough exploration of the themes of the book, check out this article from The Art of Manliness. I hope this has been interesting and helpful, and I will see you in the next post.

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Don’t Take My Word For It

One of the most important lessons I ever learned the hard way was the importance of thinking for yourself. There are plenty of people out there who appear to know what they’re talking about and do a great job presenting their ideas. Sometimes they’re right and sometimes they’re not, but how do you tell the difference? 

Something that’s worked great for me is testing out ideas whenever possible. I’ve read a lot of books about interacting with other people, being productive, getting into the right mindset, managing stress, and other important life skills. Rather than just assume the authors are correct, I test their ideas. Sometimes it takes a while to make sure I’m doing it correctly if it’s something I’m not used to doing, but once I get the hang of it, I can see whether or not it actually works. 

Another great tool for testing ideas is to separate the ideas from the person who presents them. If I find someone appealing, I’m a lot more likely to accept whatever they say, whether good or bad. On the flip side, if I dislike someone, I’m much more likely to reject whatever they say, even if they have some good points. Whenever I can get the ideas by themselves and focus just on them, forgetting about the person who presents them and my personal feelings about them, it becomes much easier to test the merit of those ideas. This way, I can recognize where the people I like get it wrong and where the people I dislike get it right while avoiding making anyone an idol.

The third strategy I’ve found helpful for maintaining critical thinking skills is to not spend too much time focusing to any one person. Reading, watching, and listening to a lot of people give their thoughts on a wide range of subjects helps me hear a lot of different perspectives on those subjects. This makes it harder to blindly follow one person or get stuck on just one perspective. It’s also useful for adding nuance to my own views and being more understanding toward people who think differently than I do; even though we disagree, I can better understand where they’re coming from I’m more familiar with the arguments they use. 

Several of you have told me that you enjoy reading my blog and seeing my thoughts, which I greatly appreciate. However, I’m still sorting a lot of things out for myself and I have a long way to go before I’d consider myself to be an expert on anything. If I say something that helps you, I’m glad, but I hope all of you think about my posts and whether or not they make sense instead of accepting my viewpoints because you like my writing. I’ve found out through firsthand experience the problems of suspending my critical thinking and blindly following someone, and I’d hate for any of you to fall into that trap. So thank you for reading my blog and giving me feedback about it, but please always remember, you don’t have to take my word for it. And I hope you don’t. 

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“The Mexican Fisherman”

This is an excerpt from The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss. I’m working toward having an abundance of time freedom and financial freedom in my life, and this short story perfectly captures why I love these ideas and the opportunities they offer. Without further ado, here’s the story.

An American businessman took a vacation to a small coastal Mexican village on doctor’s orders. Unable to sleep after an urgent phone call from the office the first morning, he walked out to the pier to clear his head. A small boat with just one fisherman had docked, and inside the boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish.

“How long did it take you to catch them?” the American asked.

“Only a little while,” the Mexican replied in surprisingly good English.

“Why don’t you stay out longer and catch more fish?” the American then asked.

“I have enough to support my family and give a few to friends,” the Mexican said as he unloaded them into a basket.

“But… What do you do with the rest of your time?”

The Mexican looked up and smiled. “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, Julia, and stroll into the village each evening, where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senor.”

The American laughed and stood tall. “Sir, I’m a Harvard M.B.A. and can help you. You should spend more time fishing, and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. In no time, you could buy several boats with the increased haul. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats.”

He continued, “Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the consumers, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village, of course, and move to Mexico City, then to Los Angeles, and eventually to New York City, where you could run your expanded enterprise with proper management.

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, senor, how long will all this take?”

To which the American replied, “15-20 years, 25 tops.”

“But what then, senor?”

The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.”

“Millions senor? Then what?”

“Then you would retire and move to a small coastal fishing village, where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, and stroll in to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”

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The Joys of Swing Dancing

When it comes to rough years, 2017 was one of the roughest for me. For much of that year, I kept getting hit with one thing after another, and it seemed as if each positive event was followed shortly thereafter by a negative event. It soon became hard for me to enjoy positive events because I was always expecting a negative event to come afterward; that mindset likely caused more negativity in my life than most of the negative events that actually happened that year. Changing that mindset was vital if I wanted to make any progress in life. Little did I know that change was right around the corner.

Shortly after July 4th, my friend Amy Lane invited me to go out swing dancing. The extent of my formal dance experience at that point consisted of a few months of practice in 2014 and two brief evenings in the spring of 2017. However, since I enjoyed the little dancing I had done, I decided to take her up on the invitation. I set out on a Sunday evening for the Volstead, which is a bar styled as an old-time speakeasy. The place was disguised quite well and I walked past it several times without even realizing it since the front looks like an old post office. When I realized I was at the right place, I went in and sat down until the beginner lesson started. I was quite rusty but my previous experience definitely helped. After the lesson, I stayed around for the open dance portion and had a lot of fun.

Once I started dancing regularly, I began to notice some changes in my life. If I had a rough day at work, I could look forward to dancing my troubles away for a few hours. The friends I met gave me endless opportunities to talk about positive things instead of whatever problems were going in in my life or elsewhere. And seeing myself improve at a physical skill was a great source of motivation to continue. Slowly but surely, my mindset became more positive and I found my life situation followed suit. 

Ever since that first night, I’ve gone to dance at the Volstead every Sunday that I can, and I also regularly dance at Club Savoy on Thursdays and the Hyperion Brewing Company on Wednesdays. I went to a major dance event back in March and I’m going to another one in September; I plan to attend many more events, both big and small, in the years to come. Swing dancing came into my life right when I needed it and I’m so thankful for everything it’s given me.

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Life Hacks

You may have noticed that several of my posts have been placed into a category called “Life Hacks”. This is a term I’ve heard used to describe better methods of doing everyday activities or alternate uses for common objects. I use the term differently, however. I think of a life hack as a tool that gives you a better chance of getting what you want in a particular instance and is probably something that most people either don’t know about or don’t use much. My hope is that this post will spread awareness of life hacks and result in more of you benefiting from using them in your lives.

Most life hacks that I’ve come across involve changing mindsets. Some of these involve changing something about your body. If you’re feeling tired and unmotivated, laying down will exacerbate that feeling and sitting up will reduce it and increase your motivation; standing up will work even better. Going from standing in a slouching fashion to standing up straight will increase your confidence and reduce shyness. Slow, deliberate breathing that makes your stomach expand during the inhale and your shoulders stay in place instead of moving up and down will make you feel more relaxed, relieve stress, and make you speak more slowly and clearly in a slightly lower-pitched voice.

Suppose you have to interact with someone you don’t particularly like. If you enter that situation expecting the worst, you’ll probably get it. There are a few life hacks you can use to make the interaction go more smoothly. An easy one is to do that person a favor. For whatever reason, we tend to see someone in a more positive light if we do them a favor, so this is a great one to start out with. You can also think about the things you like about that person or have in common with them; the more similarities we see between ourselves and someone else, the more we will like them. And if you can start off by talking about or doing things that the other person enjoys, they’ll be in a better mood, which will make it easier for you to get into a good mood as well. 

These are some of the life hacks that I’ve come across and used over the last couple of years. I’ve found that they make a big difference when I use them (I don’t always since I sometimes forget and other times my ego prevents me from using them) and I enjoy passing along useful things to other people. Some books that are full of great life hacks are The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, How to Win Friends & Influence People, The Power of Positive Thinking, The Power of Now, The Power of Habit, and How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big. I recommend checking out those if you find this interesting, and I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and found it useful.

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Review of Doctor Strange

Doctor Strange is a wonderful movie that chronicles the journey of a man who discovers that there is more to life than he ever thought possible. An arrogant surgeon named Stephen Strange is severely injured in a car wreck and loses the stability in his hands that made him so excellent at his craft. Desperate to save his career, he spends all of his time and money trying to find something that could undo the damage. He learns of a man who was previously unable to walk but regained that ability after spending time in a place called Kamar-Taj. After getting there and being initially turned off by the spiritual ideas he’s shown, Strange discovers that they are telling the truth. Under the guidance of the Ancient One and her other students, he learns to let go of his ego and look at the world differently than he ever had before. Through regular study and practice, he uses his newfound abilities to protect the world from those who try to harm it.

While Strange was already saving lives when he was a surgeon, his purpose in doing so was to feed his ego and make himself rich. Now, his actions are guided by a desire to help others and serve a cause greater than himself. Accordingly, he gives a sincere, heartfelt apology to his ex-girlfriend for verbally abusing her and rejects the simple option to heal his body and resume his previous life, which was the option chosen by the once-disabled man who told him about Kamar-Taj. These are profound changes that reflect a true spiritual awakening. 

Some may see this movie as a simple, straightforward superhero flick, but it’s so much deeper than that. It expertly illustrates the importance of checking the ego, surrendering to the fact that there is more to life than we realize, the power of transmuting suffering into peace, and being present as often as possible; these are important both for helping us live our best possible lives and for showing us our greater purpose in this world. By weaving these lessons into a fun, action-packed movie filled with memorable, likeable characters, the creators are able to introduce them to more people than if it were a serious documentary or guidebook. This makes it one of the most important movies released within the past decade and one of my all-time favorite movies.

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How to Slow Down Time

Most of you have probably heard “Time flies when you’re having fun” more times than you can count. I don’t know if there’s a catchy phrase for the feeling that time drags on when you’re bored, but you’re probably also familiar with that sensation. If so, then you already have one tool that you’ll need for making use of this post: the understanding that you can change the flow of time by changing your mindset.

Before we go further, you may wonder why anybody would want to make time pass more slowly. Well, when you break down a typical day for the average person (there’s one such breakdown in this video), it’s very easy to let time get away from you and find yourself with little to no time left to do the things you most enjoy. Then there are things like watching friends and family members grow up and move on to other things in life, enjoyable events that feel too short, and a feeling of lacking control over your life. If you can stretch out the time you have, your life will feel a lot longer, fuller, richer, and more enjoyable, and you’ll be better able pursue your interests. With that in mind, let’s dive into how this works.

Being in a negative mood will make time feel like it’s moving slower. Good things will seem to take a lot longer to arrive, bad things will seem to go on longer than you’d like, and it’ll feel like forever before you’re out of that situation. Even once you’re out of it, looking back on it, it will seem to have taken up a larger part of your life than it actually did. A positive mood, on the other hand, will make bad things pass more quickly, good things appear sooner, and a rough situation will seem much shorter while you’re in it as well as when you look back on it. Being present, which I talked about in my previous blog post, will help tremendously with this. In addition to helping you keep and maintain a positive mindset, it will also make you more aware of the passage of time (I’ve found that this is often sufficient for making it feel slower) and of your surroundings. Presence makes it easier to use another tool for slowing down time: keeping busy.

By “keeping busy”, I don’t mean doing a lot of pointless tasks or never stopping to rest. I mean minimizing your idle time by accomplishing productive tasks (tasks that put you and those around you in a better position than before you did them) and then finding other useful things to do with your remaining time (such as reading about a subject you enjoy, visiting with friends, learning a new hobby, etc). When you look back on a day in which you accomplished a lot, it will feel longer than a day in which you accomplished very little; the more full days you have, the slower time will move and the longer your life will feel. Plus you’ll go to bed feeling good about getting a lot of good things done, which will make it easier to keep a positive mindset the next day and create a positive feedback loop that makes this easier and more natural as you go. 

Since I started doing these things earlier this year, time feels like it moves a lot more slowly for me. I can make three or four hours before going into work feel like twelve hours, and I can usually stretch out one day into two or three; this works nicely for making one day off feel like several, especially since my normal days off aren’t consecutive. Rather than getting stressed out and rushing to get things done as fast as possible, I can breathe, slow down, and move at my own pace while still getting done everything I need to do and most of what I want to do in any given day. I also feel like I have a lot more time to plan for the future and put those plans into action than I did before. 

This is a subject I haven’t talked about much and it was tricky to figure out how to explain it, so I hope this post makes sense. There is a great article from The Art of Manliness that covers this subject and looks at it in ways I did not. I recommend checking it out if you’d like to learn more about this. I hope you found this useful and enjoyable, and I will see you next time (pun intended). 

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Presence

As far back as I can remember, I’ve wanted to leave the world better than I found it. When I found out how much suffering exists and how much has to change, it was easy for me to get downtrodden and discouraged. My personal interactions with people who seem to be interested only in benefitting themselves no matter the cost to other increased the negative emotions I felt. Wherever I went, I allowed others to determine my emotional state. If I was surrounded by happy people, I’d be happy. If someone said something to me that I disliked, I’d get angry. This was how I lived for years.

Occasionally I experienced brief periods of true peace. The first occurred when I worked at a retirement home and lasted a week. Out of nowhere I felt a sense of peace and stability that I had never felt before. No matter what happened around me, nothing could shake or remove this sense of peace from me. Getting stuck in traffic on the way to work, finding out someone else had made my job needlessly more difficult, or anything else that would normally draw up negative emotions within me failed to do so. This sense of peace and stillness left as quickly and mysteriously as it came, and before I knew it I was back to living in my normal state of wildly varying emotions. A year or two later, I took an acting class at a local theatre. The first thing the instructor had us do at the beginning of each class was lie down on the floor and focus on our breath and our bodies; he also gave us visualizations to use during this time if we wished. Over the course of the six-week class, I experienced more peace both in the class and outside of it than I had had in a long time. After the class ended and I stopped focusing on my breath, however, that sense of peace once again left me.

About a year and a half after my acting class ended, I experienced a great transformation in my life. My friend Israel Anderson had been talking about something  called presence and started offering what he called presence sessions. As I heard more from him about what this entailed, I asked to experience one. He called me up and talked me through some concepts about our minds, our thoughts, our bodies, and other related subjects. Over the course of an hour, he showed me how to clear my mind and focus on the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or dreading the future. I now had access to the tools that would allow me to live in that state of presence and peace that I had previously experienced only for short intervals.

“Old habits die hard” is a cliché, but it’s also true. Since I hadn’t known about presence until 2017, I spent most of my life living in a state of unconsciousness. As a result, it was incredibly easy to slip back into that state when I wasn’t focused. However, I had obtained an audio version of The Power of Now and the more I listened to it (in addition to reading the printed version) and practiced its teachings, the easier it became to stay present. I began to notice when I became lost in thought and could then return to a state of presence.

Being present helped me focus less on the things I can’t control and more on the things I can control. Instead of getting caught up in unnecessary drama or spending an afternoon thinking about how things might have turned out had events gone differently than they did, I found myself focusing on things I wanted to change in my own life. Gradually I turned bad habits into good ones, I learned new skills and got better at the ones I already knew, and I spent more time enjoying the company of good friends and getting to know them on a personal level. Presence has helped me a lot and I think the world would change for the better in just about every way if more people made this a regular practice. 

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How I Do Things I Don’t Want to Do

That may seem like a strange title, so I’ll explain what I mean by it. There are many times each day in which I have trouble finding the motivation to do things that I know are beneficial. Something that I’ve discovered over time is that I find the hardest part of a task to be getting started, especially if I’m relaxing and not really doing anything. At that moment, I’m continually “moving” in the direction of relaxation, so it’s easier to keep that “momentum” going than it is to change it. Similarly, I’ve found that if I’m engaged in some activity, my momentum will make it easier to continue working on that activity than to stop or switch to another activity (as long as what I’m doing isn’t excessively painful, confusing, or something else along similar lines).

The trick, therefore, is to find a way to get started on an activity that I don’t want to do but I know will benefit me and then let my momentum carry me through to its completion. So to get started, I take a big task and break it down into one simple task that I can complete. That way I’m not getting overwhelmed at the amount of work ahead of me or racking my brain trying to figure out how to do it all at once. I now have one small, simple step I can take that will get me going in the right direction and will help me gradually get to the end.

I’ll use my writing process as an example. There are some rare occasions in which I can write out a full blog post in one go, but usually I work on it a bit at a time. Maybe I don’t know exactly what I want to say but I have a general idea of what I want to talk about, so I’ll start by just typing out a few ideas. They may be fragments and not make sense to anyone else yet, but I know what they mean and they give me a starting point that I can use to flesh them out later. Once I get some ideas down, I find the rest of the process becomes much easier and the post seems to write itself.

Another example pertains to my job. A few times a week, we get a truck loaded with appliances. Sometimes I’m there to unload it and sometimes I come in after it’s already been unloaded, but in either case, I’m normally there to move the merchandise onto the floor once it’s ready to be sold. What I do as often as I can is pick the appliances that I think will be the easiest to move (sometimes it ends up being refrigerators and other times it’s washing machines or dryers) and start taking those out first. That way, I’m working on something that takes less time to move, is easier to put where it belongs, and, because of those things, helps keep me in a better mood than if I’d started with a more difficult choice. Once I’ve finished that, I’ve got a lot of momentum carrying more toward finishing the job, I can see how much I’ve done by observing how much more room there is in the back warehouse now that I’ve taken out a couple dozen appliances, and I can more easily maneuver in the warehouse now that I’ve freed up a lot of space, which makes it easier to get the more difficult appliances out.

This basic template of starting on something that’s easy and that I enjoy before moving onto the more difficult and less enjoyable tasks works in every area I’ve tried it. It consistently works even when I’m feeling sick, tired, unmotivated, or otherwise weighed down. Starting my day by getting something accomplished also makes it easier to be productive later on that if I have a lazy start. So if you find you’re having trouble finding the motivation to do something, maybe give this a try and see if it works for you. 

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My Biggest Moment of Serendipity This Year

I started off this year with a great sense of optimism and peace, but little to no direction. That all changed on one of my days off when I decided to start organizing my room. Having tried in the past to do too much in one day and then gotten discouraged from doing any further organizing, I decided to take it slow. Each day I would spend a few minutes straightening it up; some days I got a lot accomplished and others just a little, but I always did something to decrease the clutter and increase the amount of useable space. 

Satisfied that I had accomplished something and gotten off to a good start, I settled down and listened to an episode of Joe Rogan’s podcast. This one featured Jordan Peterson, whom I had heard a bit about but never looked into before that day. One of the things he talked about in that episode was the importance of cleaning your room. I nearly fell off the couch when he said that. Of all the things I could have done that day, I happened to start cleaning my room and then listen to Peterson talk about that very thing (being previously unfamiliar with Peterson, I had no idea that was something he talked about). That was one of the clearest moments of serendipity in my life and my interest in Peterson immediately skyrocketed. He discussed how cleaning your room will have positive effects on the people you live with by inspiring them to make positive changes in their lives, it gives you a sense of purpose while doing it and satisfaction when it’s completed, it increases your confidence and competence in changing things for the better, and that it’s an important to get your own life together before you try to fix the problems in the world.

This served as a good motivator to keep cleaning my room at least a few times a week; I don’t work on it every day, but I still work on it a lot more than I did before this year. Additionally, once I got the ball rolling on one positive activity, it became easier to add additional ones. I’ve spent a lot of time this year cleaning my room, learning Spanish, reading great books, exercising, improving myself, and working toward self-employment. I think that moment of serendipity about cleaning my room came in right when I needed it gave me the right motivation and direction to gradually move myself into an all-around better position in life. I’ve embedded a short clip of Peterson talking about the importance of cleaning your room if you’d like to check it out. I hope it helps you as much as it’s helped me.

Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan talk about cleaning your room
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