All Work and No Play

I’ve never been into working for long, unbroken stretches of time. Whenever possible, I prefer to do a bit of work and then take a short break, alternating the two until my work is done. I find that to be much easier, less draining, and more effective when it comes to getting things accomplished. Sometimes I’m comfortable working for longer periods, such as when I have a deadline to meet, I’m feeling very inspired, or I love what I’m doing. Overall, though, I like to break large tasks down into smaller ones and spread them out.

This also gives my subconscious time to think through whatever I’m doing and come up with new or better ways to get it done. For example, I often get some of my best ideas for writing when I’m engaged in a fun, playful activity instead of sitting at the computer struggling to come up with something. Whenever I’ve hit a sticking point on a project, I always find a break helps me relax and overcome that obstacle when I return to work. In contrast, trying to force a solution more often than not only serves to make me more frustrated and less capable of being creative.

I think everyone would benefit from taking more regular breaks from work and having a little time to play. This could be facilitated by getting rid of “busy work”, which I consider to be tasks that serve no productive purpose and are only assigned to give people something to do. Along similar lines, eliminating the 20% of things that cause 80% of your problems and focusing on the 20% of things that provide 80% of your results (this is known as the Pareto principle, which Tim Ferriss talks about in The 4-Hour Workweek) can also free up time to play and take it easy. This would give coworkers more time to get to know each other and even become friends rather than just being workplace associates, which would make their time at work more enjoyable. I’d like to see some major changes that would allow more people have time for breaks at school, on the job, and anywhere else they work. This way, they can relax more, enjoy each other’s company, have time to pursue their interests, and avoid stress and all sorts of other negative things that come from too much work and not enough play.

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“If”

“If” is a short poem written by Rudyard Kipling about the importance of rising above difficult life situations. It’s a great reminder for me during challenging times and I hope it also serves you well.

If you can keep your head when all about you   
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,   
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;   
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;   
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;   
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;   
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,   
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,   
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,   
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,   
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

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Review of The Lost Skeleton of Cadavra

Whenever I sit down to watch a movie, I try to pick one that I think I’ll enjoy because of its high quality. Sometimes, however, I’ll end up seeing a movie that I enjoy because of its poor quality. The Lost Skeleton of Cadavra is definitely in the latter category. Spoilers abound, so consider skipping this review if you want to see the movie first.

The Lost Skeleton of Cadavra was released in 2001 but looks and feels like one of the many B movies from the 1950’s and 1960’s. The creators clearly had very little money to work with but they still ended up making an incredibly entertaining movie. The plot (what little plot there is) involves a scientist and his wife, an alien couple, and another scientist all trying to get a meteorite that contains an element called atmosphereum. The first scientist wants to study it so he can become famous, the aliens want to use it to power their ship and return to their home planet of Marva, and the other scientist wants to use it to bring the “Lost Skeleton” back to life and rule the the world alongside it. There is also a mutant and a woman created by the aliens’ transmutatron from a combination of several different forest creatures.

As you might have guessed from the previous paragraph, this is one of the most bizarre movies I’ve ever seen. The effects were incredibly simple and fake-looking, the writing felt like something written by auto correct combined with predictive text, and the performances were as over the top as could be. And I had a blast watching it. I think there are a few reasons that I enjoyed it so much. First, it seemed to relish in its corniness, as if everyone involved tried to make it as fun and goofy as possible; it never felt like it took itself too seriously or acted as if it were anything spectacular. And second, I watched it with a group of friends and we mocked it in the style of Mystery Science Theater 3000 the whole time. I had never even heard of this movie until a few hours before I saw it and I don’t know how I would have felt about it if I’d seen it alone. This seems like it was made to be watched with other people who don’t take it seriously, and that made for an incredibly entertaining experience. This is one of the best bad movies I’ve watched and, if you enjoy movies that are so bad they’re good, give this one a watch with some of your friends. You’ll have a blast.

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Saturday Adventures

My Saturdays tend to either be quite relaxing and uneventful or action-packed and full of things to do. This past Saturday fell into the latter category for me and several of my friends. I got to visit with many of them, including a few I had not seen in a long time, at three different events. Here are some of the highlights from that awesome day.

I started off by going swing dancing for a while at the Riverside Arts Market. Bold City Swing typically goes out there one Saturday each month to dance and reach out to those interested in swing dancing. We had fun dancing and visiting with each other and talking to a few people who stopped to watch. I ended up leaving early to do a few more things at home, including getting ready for a friend’s baby shower. She invited me well in advance of the big day and, since it was on a Saturday (one of my days off from work), I accepted. I had already purchased the gifts but still had to wrap them up at home before heading back out. We played a few games, ate some good food, visited with people I had previously met and some I first met that day, and watched the main couple open their gifts. This is the first baby shower I’ve been to in several years and the third one for me overall. When the time came for me to go, I said my goodbyes and set out for my next stop.

For my final adventure of the day, I relaxed with another group of friends and watched a couple of B movies. Most of us had no idea what we’d be watching until that night; we ended up seeing The Lost Skeleton of Cadavra and Vampire Assassin. It was clear that both of them had almost no budget, but we all enjoyed watching and mocking them in the style of Mystery Science Theater 3000. Personally, I liked The Lost Skeleton of Cadavra much more than Vampire Assassin. The former seemed to relish in its corniness, as if everyone making it decided to make it as fun and goofy as possible, and it seemed like a parody of classic B movies from the 1950’s and 1960’s. On the other hand, the latter felt more like it was trying to be a cool, action-packed movie when it clearly wasn’t anything of the sort. Plus, we were all getting tired by the time Vampire Assassin started and had nearly laughed ourselves out during The Lost Skeleton of Cadavra, so that probably made the second movie less enjoyable. While we were there, we also had fun celebrating another friend’s birthday with a surprise party. It was a great way to finish off a wonderful Saturday, one that will stick with me for many years to come.

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“The Road Not Taken”

“The Road Not Taken” is a short poem written by Robert Frost. I think about it now and then, especially when making a major life decision. I see it as a reminder that sometimes it pays to take a less conventional path and that’s why it’s stood out in my mind for so many years.

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

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Sharing Lessons from the Mountain

Although I’ve almost always held an optimistic view of the future, there are times where I felt all was lost and I wanted to escape and live in a secluded area for the rest of my days. There are people who have done and continue to do this, such as deeply religious people who live simple lives in isolated regions. While that sounds interesting, I’ve never done anything like it. If I did, I probably would only do it for brief periods of time; I don’t think I could live like that indefinitely.

While I think people who live most or all of their lives in secluded regions are fascinating, I wonder how much they’re doing to change the world. That’s why I’m more interested in those who have spent a great deal of time living like that and then went back to their regular lives, often having been changed for the better by their time away from everything. Within the past few weeks, I realized how much I’ve benefited from these people who “went to the mountain” and brought back what they found. Some of them went on grand trips to exotic places, others stole away to their cabin or homestead, and still others simply spent a great deal of their free time alone with their thoughts while living an otherwise “normal” life. A few of them later shared their experiences by writing books, making videos, giving interviews, etc. Many of my biggest breakthroughs have come from learning about their revelations and applying those lessons to my life. I think my purpose in life is to do that very thing for others.

So far, my “mountain” has primarily consisted of reflecting on things I’ve learned from books and videos, relaxing in my hammock, healing past pain, and improving myself in as many ways as I can (along with an occasional brief vacation, which gives me a chance to “reset” myself). I’ve mainly used this blog and social media to share my experiences but I also talk about them in person or over the phone with a few close friends. I love having a blog because it allows me to share my ideas with nearly anyone, even if I don’t know them personally. I’ve always loved learning about a variety of things and then sharing my findings with others. Also, I’ve enjoyed trying to find connections between different things (such as in six degrees of separation and variations of that idea), including things I’ve been looking into for the past few years now.

Many of the books I’ve read have overlapped each other in many ways; this makes it easier to remember the information by reading it several times and it’s also cool to see different takes from authors writing about similar matters. Plus there may be a lesson in one book that strengthens a lesson from another, making the combined lessons much more powerful than either one would be by itself. The more I read, the more connections I find, and the easier I can see the image they create in my mind. It’s like putting together a puzzle, except in this case that puzzle is my place in the world. Right now, I’m focused on gathering a lot of information and ideas and putting together the puzzle pieces. I just sort of fell into this, so I take that as a sign that I’m where I should be. I want to leave the world better than I found it and my long-term plan for doing that is helping to create close-knit communities where people can live, work, play, and support each other in peace. I think the life lessons I’m learning will help me with that and I’m excited to see how everything plays out.

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Review of Beetlejuice

Beetlejuice is my favorite Tim Burton movie and it seems to get better every time I see it. I watched it on Wednesday and found a lot of little gems in it that I had either forgotten about or never noticed before. If you want to avoid major spoilers, then I suggest avoiding this review or skipping to the final paragraph.

The movie stars Alec Baldwin and Geena Davis as Adam and Barbara Maitland, a young couple taking some time off from running their hardware store to work on their house and enjoy each other’s company. On their way home, they swerve to avoid hitting a dog and are killed when their car falls into the river. It takes them a bit to realize they’re dead, but after noticing that they have no reflections in the mirror, can’t recall how they got back home, and get stuck in a large desert-like environment with strange creatures whenever they step foot outside the house, they accept their fate and try to figure out what to do about it.

While they try to navigate the strange, bureaucratic afterlife with the help of a caseworker named Juno and their Handbook for the Recently Deceased, they are distressed to see a family called the Deetzes move in and transform their house into something totally bizarre. The only living person who can see the Maitlands is the Deetz’s goth daughter, Lydia (played by Winona Ryder). Desperate to scare the Deetzes away and have the house to themselves again, the Maitlands give it their best before turning to a ghost named Betelgeuse (played by Michael Keaton) for help. When he proves to be more trouble than he’s worth, the Maitlands team up with Lydia and try to stop him and his crazy antics.

Like other Burton movies, Beetlejuice has a visual style that’s incredibly strange, twisted, and creative. A combination of practical effects, stop motion, and special effects, alongside highly intricate set pieces, gives this movie a highly recognizable and distinctive look. It also has a wacky sense of humor, which is probably the main reason I like it so much. To me, Beetlejuice is a fun, goofy movie with great characters and I always enjoy watching it, and I look forward to watching it again soon.

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Mindfulness Buddy

One entry in Tim Ferriss’s book Tools of Titans covers some of Chade-Meng Tan’s ideas regarding mindfulness and meditation. Among other things, Meng talks about having a “mindfulness buddy” who can help you with your mindfulness practice. I liked that idea and decided to try it out. A friend who shares many of my interests agreed to give it a shot and we’ve kept it up for a good while now. Here are some things that have come out of this shared practice.

Although Meng recommends that mindfulness buddies ask each other a few specific questions when they check in, we’ve done it differently. Our approach has essentially been to talk about our ideas, experiences, and breakthroughs as they happen. Since we’re normally separated by a great distance, we’ve discussed most of this over the internet. We’re not always able to respond right away (especially since we’ve both started taking more time away from social media), but we come back to the conversation when we can and give a thoughtful response. This has also been a great way to keep in touch and learn more about each other, which I’ve enjoyed quite a bit.

I sometimes talk about my bigger ideas with certain people who are receptive to them but I don’t think I’ve ever had a mindfulness buddy before. Also, I’ve done most of my self-improvement work in solitude, so this has been a new adventure for me. With all this in mind, being able to talk to someone about this stuff, check in with each other to see how we’re doing, and share useful things as we find them has been amazing. One of my favorite parts of this experience has been the ability to confide in someone who’s walking a similar path and share things that other people may not understand or accept. We’ve both learned a great deal from each other through this and we also inspire and encourage each other to follow our own advice, so there’s a great deal of accountability that’s come out of simply discussing our ideas. If you’re on a self-improvement journey, I’d highly recommend finding a mindfulness buddy and discovering for yourself the joy of walking that path with someone who is on a similar journey and will help you along the way.

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Some of My Thoughts on Education, Learning, and Schooling

There are a lot of arguments about schooling, many of which can get hostile. Most arguments I see with regards to schooling focus primarily on what will be taught and who will pay for it. Nearly everyone I see weigh in on this subject takes for granted the current model that looks something like this: a handful of teachers are responsible for instructing dozens or even hundreds of students in a big building where almost everyone there spends the bulk of their day from early in the morning until well into the afternoon. Nearly every conversation on education involves simply tweaking one element of that model (teacher pay, start time, source of funding, and so on); I rarely see anyone thinking outside that model and discussing whether or not it should be drastically changed or even eliminated in favor of one or more alternative models. I have some thoughts on this subject that I’d like to talk about in this blog post.

The current model of schooling works well for some but leaves much to be desired for others. For example, kids are most often grouped by age rather than ability. As a result, kids who are exceptionally bright may become bored or restless by a curriculum that’s too easy for them while kids who need more time and assistance might feel that things are moving too fast for them to keep up. Additionally, some schools have minimized or completely abolished recess. This hurts kids who can focus better after taking some time to run around, play, have fun with their friends, burn off some extra energy, and enjoy being in a more relaxed environment. Personally, I loved having time to play in elementary and middle school and I can’t imagine getting through the day without some type of physical activity, and I feel sorry for the kids who are or will be in that situation.

Teachers also have a difficult time in the current schooling model. Among other things, they have to create lessons plans, instruct for hours at a time, maintain control of the classroom, grade assignments, and alert parents and administrators to problems they see. Sometimes they get blamed for problems that arise even someone else is at fault. When things are going well and major problems don’t arise, their normal workload is still massive and takes up a huge amount of their time both during and outside of school hours. The intense workload that both students and teachers have to bear, alongside a system that’s gradually become increasingly more centered around getting good grades on standardized tests, affords very little time for teachers to give additional assistance to students who need it; they also have almost no time to help kids become well-rounded, capable adults.

So many parents work long hours outside the house to support their families and countless kids are at school (or doing something related to school, such as homework, getting ready in the morning, and going to and from school) for most of their waking day. That’s a lot of time that kids can’t spend with their parents during their formative years, which is often hard on both kids and parents alike. The time they could spend together is often further reduced by the hours of homework that many kids have to do once they get home from school and the exhaustion lots of parents feel after working all day. Then, before anyone realizes what’s happened, the kids have grown up and left home to start careers and families of their own, leaving sporadic special occasions as the only opportunities for family members to reunite.

All of this has caused me to favor homeschooling. Time is precious and if I end up having kids, I’d want to be around them as often as possible. Even better if I could work from home and spend more time with my family. Plus I’d want to design lesson plans around the needs of each of my kids and teach them some practical life skills that are no longer taught in most schools. I’ve seen this sort of lifestyle firsthand as I have some friends who work from home and homeschool their kids; they’re grateful that they can spend so much time with them and do things they never could in a more conventional lifestyle.

While my preference is for homeschooling, I’d be content to see more awareness and use of different schooling options so every individual and family can find something that works well for them. Some of this could be done now by taking advantage of resources such as the Khan Academy, books that can be obtained for little to no money through the internet or libraries, educational materials on YouTube, and online teachers who can teach kids from almost anywhere in the world. The internet has opened up so many possibilities for learning and I’m glad to see people increasingly using it for educational purposes. However, I think some fundamental changes to how modern societies are structured would be necessary to bring about the next phase in education, including but not limited to the following: a system that allows most people to work from home instead of commuting to a job nearly every day, more community-based aid (neighbors taking turns babysitting, sharing money when times are tough, helping each other with repairs, etc), giving every kid a curriculum based around their strengths and weaknesses, and abandoning the idea that there is one direct path to success and fulfillment as well as the accompanying idea that anyone who chooses a different path is a failure.

Mark Twain reportedly said “I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.” This may initially sound like an attack on schooling, but I see it differently. I think it shows that education need not be confined to any one model or system and that learning can come from a variety of situations, even ones that look quite different than the ones to which we’re accustomed. Personally, I learned a lot from my time in school and I’ve continued learning through self-directed means. I don’t have a grand plan that will work best for everyone, and I don’t think there is such a plan. As I said above, I just want there to be more opportunities for people to find what works best for themselves and their families. I think most people want that as well, and if we really work toward making that happen, we can make it our reality.

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“The Paradox of Our Age”

In “The Paradox of Our Age”, Dr. Bob Moorehead shows how we often lose sight of the truly meaningful things in life and focus instead on trivial matters. Works like this remind me to keep my priorities in order and focus on what’s important.

We have taller buildings but shorter tempers; wider freeways but narrower viewpoints; we spend more but have less; we buy more but enjoy it less; we have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, yet less time; we have more degrees but less sense; more knowledge but less judgement; more experts, yet more problems; we have more gadgets but less satisfaction; more medicine, yet less wellness; we take more vitamins but see fewer results. We drink too much; smoke too much; spend too recklessly; laugh too little; drive too fast; get too angry quickly; stay up too late; get up too tired; read too seldom; watch TV too much and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values; we fly in faster planes to arrive there quicker, to do less and return sooner; we sign more contracts only to realize fewer profits; we talk too much; love too seldom and lie too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life; we’ve added years to life, not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor. We’ve conquered outer space, but not inner space; we’ve done larger things, but not better things; we’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul; we’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice; we write more, but learn less; plan more, but accomplish less; we make faster planes, but longer lines; we learned to rush, but not to wait; we have more weapons, but less peace; higher incomes, but lower morals; more parties, but less fun; more food, but less appeasement; more acquaintances, but fewer friends; more effort, but less success. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication; drive smaller cars that have bigger problems; build larger factories that produce less. We’ve become long on quantity, but short on quality.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men, but short character; steep in profits, but shallow relationships. These are times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure and less fun; higher postage, but slower mail; more kinds of food, but less nutrition. These are days of two incomes, but more divorces; these are times of fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, cartridge living, thow-away morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies and pills that do everything from cheer, to prevent, quiet or kill. It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stock room. Indeed, these are the times!

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