What I’ve Learned from Floating

As of this writing, I’ve floated in a sensory deprivation tank on six different occasions. Each float was different in some way and gave me exactly what I needed even if I didn’t know it at the time. Here are some things I’ve learned from my experiences thus far.

My most recent realization has to do with working through difficult and painful things in life. There is nearly half a ton of salt mixed with the water in a sensory deprivation tank, meaning that you float effortlessly on the surface. I can hold my arms or legs on the bottom briefly but once I relax, they float right to the top. In the same way, I’ve found floating clears my mind of distractions and allows the things I need to work on to float to the surface of my mind. Sometimes I’ve thought about those things while I’m floating, and other times they’ve not come to mind until I’ve gotten out and resumed my regular life. Either way, floating makes room for me to focus on those important things.

On the subject of working on problem areas, I’ve also realized that I can’t depend on floating alone to improve my life. Floating is simply a tool (and a very useful one at that) that helps me recognize where I can do better and puts me in the right state of mind to follow through. But following through is a must. If I act without regard to my values in my regular life and then expect floating to do the heavy lifting for me, I’m going about it the wrong way. I have to practice what I preach, and floating has always clearly shown me when I’m not doing that.

Something I got from my most recent float was a reminder about letting go. I kept that in mind the very next day at work when it was crazy busy, hot, and had the potential to be super stressful. Whenever I felt the stress coming on, I reminded myself to breathe, let go of resistance to the situation, and just take one step at a time until I was finished. That’s exactly what I did and it worked like a charm. I needed this reminder to work on controlling my perception of any given situation instead of letting the situation control me.

These, in addition to being reminded of the importance of relaxation, have been the biggest revelations I’ve gotten while floating. I’ve enjoyed the experience of floating as well as the insights it’s given me about my life. It’s been interesting to see some messages appear repeatedly (which I take to mean that I need to work more on those things) and others that have only shown up once or twice (probably areas where I’m doing fine). I’m excited to see what else I learn about myself through floating and how I can use it to improve my life and the lives of those around me.

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All Play and No Work

I was once at a point in my life where I had no real responsibilities, few (if any) hobbies, and put no effort at all into personal development. That quickly became depressing and felt like a prison of my own making, and I never want to go back to that. The way I got out and entered a much better phase of life was by taking on some responsibilities and working regularly on something bigger than myself. This gave me something productive to do with my time and made me realize that rest and relaxation should complement effort, not replace it.

A nice meal is much more enjoyable when I’m hungry than when I’ve just eaten. And no matter how much I enjoy a certain kind of food, I’d get sick of it if I ate it all the time. Just as eating constantly would be a recipe for misery, endless relaxation is as well. Rest is necessary to recharge and allow me to resume my work with renewed vigor, ideas, and positivity, and taking a break is wonderful when I’ve been super busy. But, without some type of work from which to take a break, resting all the time quickly becomes boring and draining. Ideas and possibilities pile up without being put to use, motivation decreases, and the body gradually wastes away. This doesn’t mean we should strive to be busy all the time, do meaningless things simply to pass the time, or that we have to work at a job or business of our own in order to feel satisfied. We can find fulfillment in volunteering for good causes, pursuing our passions, helping other people, and generally trying to make a positive difference in the world. Depending on your life situation, you can find fulfillment in one or more of those activities.

One of my college professors said he used to be so busy that he’d fight to stay awake at night so he could feel what it was like to relax. I’m not at that point yet, but I’m getting close. I’m much busier now than I was as recently as a month ago. Because I don’t have as much free time as I did before, I’m much more appreciative of the times when I can rest. I often build these times into my schedule, but they often appear out of nowhere. For example, I once arrived way earlier than necessary for a dance event because I was wrong about the time it started and took it as a sign that I needed to slow down a bit and enjoy the moment. Ultimately, whether I’ve planned a break or it just happens, I try to relax and enjoy the peace they provide me. And I always feel much better when I do.

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Blank Pages

When I see a blank page, I see a myriad of possibilities. I see a chance to write out my thoughts, feelings, and ideas in my own style. I see a chance to discuss something that might resonate with someone else in a way that neither of us expected. I see a chance to create a world of my own, limited only by my imagination. Although I often make this world as I go, reshaping it on the fly, there are a few rare times in which I see it all in my head before writing it all out. Those are the most enjoyable times for me to write.

It’s not always easy to come up with ideas or put them into words. Sometimes my ideas are so bountiful and forthcoming that they fill several pages; on other occasions, I struggle to get out a few lines. Consistent practice has, however, made this much easier than it used to be. Now I can create a blog post from scratch in half an hour or less. I prefer to take my time with these posts, but I can get them done quickly if I’m pressed for time or feeling especially inspired.

The most exciting part for me has been the gradual realization that I can write the story of my life just as I can create my own little worlds on blank pages. My life isn’t blank, but it still contains a lot of room for edits. Even though other people started writing my life and have done so for the bulk of it thus far, I’ve steadily gained the ability to take the pen and write or rewrite it as I see fit. Some stuff is worth keeping and even expanding, while other stuff can be removed. And in writing my life, as with my normal writing, I have to have some idea of where I want to go before I can make it happen even though I don’t always know the destination or the path that’ll take me there; I’m often pleasantly surprised when I end up in a very different place than where I thought I’d go. This is what makes the process exciting for me and inspires me to keep working toward something bigger than myself. I’m loving the journey so far and I’m looking forward to seeing where it takes me next.

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Review of The Alchemist

Last night, I finished reading The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. This was the first fictional book I’ve read in a long time and, once I started getting into the story, I remembered how much I enjoy quality fiction. Here is a brief synopsis followed by my thoughts on the book.

The story follows a shepherd boy who loves to travel and finds out about a treasure near the Egyptian pyramids. Once he’s sure he wants it, he sells his sheep and sets off on a journey to find the treasure. Along the way, he ends up in a variety of new situations and has a lot of interesting interactions with all kinds of people. He periodically hits an obstacle or difficult situation that throws him for a loop and, on occasion, demoralizes him; he spends a lot of time in one particular situation without much interest in looking for something else to do or resuming his search for the treasure. No matter what, though, he always manages to return to his journey and make progress toward his goal, even if his path sometimes goes all over the place.

Reading The Alchemist felt like seeing everything I’ve learned over the past few years about self-improvement and pursuing dreams come to life through this story. I especially liked how Coelho showed that the path to our best life isn’t always straight and that sometimes we have to stay in one place or even appear to regress before we can move forward again. If there were one book that would sum up my thought processes and approach to life, this would be it. Check out a short story from the book called “The Secret to Happiness”; if you liked it, then you’ll probably like the rest of the book as well. I’m glad I read The Alchemist and I’m looking forward to returning to it from time to time for some motivation as I pursue my dreams.

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I Changed My Mind

I started this blog with the goal of monetizing it. I’ve always had tons of ideas and, since I love to read, I figured I could work out a deal with online book sellers in which I could make money by promoting some of my favorite books. Once I got the blog up and running, I focused first on creating content (because how can I monetize a blog with no posts?) and determined I’d work on making money later. That has since changed.

As I went along putting one post up after another, I began to realize how much I enjoy sharing my thoughts on the stuff that has changed my life for the better and seeing others benefit from it as well. The constant writing, in addition to making me a better writer, also improved my ability to think clearly and articulate my ideas more easily and comfortably than ever before; it’s also made me more bold in expressing myself even when someone may reject me or my ideas. And having this blog has played a major role in getting me to a better position in a few key areas. I’ve never made any money through this blog and yet it has still added so much value to my life.

With all of this in mind, I’ve decided not to monetize my blog after all. I love the freedom to write about whatever I want without trying to please sponsors or hope I can get enough traffic to generate sufficient income for the month. I actually have no idea how many people frequent my blog or what types of posts they prefer, and that’s ok with me. Since I’m doing this for fun and not for money, I can talk about what I want, make the blog look how I want it to look, and do what I want with it without being concerned what others think about it. If it ends up being a stepping stone to a whole new place in life for me, that’s awesome. But even if this blog “only” serves as a repository for my ideas so that I and others can benefit from them, then I’ll be perfectly content and consider it to be worth the effort.

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The Importance of Having Good Friends

I think a great deal of credit for the progress I’ve made in the past few years is due to the people I’m most often around. As I’ve mentioned before, one of my high school principals said this at my graduation: “Your friends are like elevators. They will either take you up or they will bring you down.” It’s easy to speak, act, and even think similarly to those I see on a regular basis, and I’ve been blessed in that I often get to hang out with some incredible people.

Several friends I see regularly are either entrepreneurs or are working towards running their own businesses. As a result, I’ve learned a number of things about business and finances just by listening to them and asking them questions. Spending time around them has made me more motivated to become an entrepreneur and has given me some useful information about how to get there.

There are also a few people I know whose ideas about life and life plans are quite similar to mine. Talking to them about this stuff without having to explain where I’m coming from or having them think I’m crazy is refreshing. It also helps me remember what I’ve been learning and allows me to figure more things out while we talk, which makes it easier to reproduce my findings in these blog posts. Many of my posts have come from conversations with close friends or from books they’ve recommended, so I have them to thank for a good bit of the content on this website.

I’m no stranger to the idea that being around people with similar goals helps you achieve yours. In addition to my high school principal talking about this, Jordan Peterson also discusses the importance of having quality friends in his book 12 Rules for Life. “Make friends with people who want the best for you” is the chapter in which he examines how much our friends impact us and determine where we go in life. Despite being familiar with this notion, however, I didn’t know how true it is until recently when I realized how much of a positive impact my friends have had on me, including but not limited to helping me with the following: staying out of trouble, growing as a person, developing good habits, getting through difficult times, and moving closer to where I want to be in life. I’m thankful for my friends and everything they’ve helped me with, and I look forward to enjoying their company for many more years to come.

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Moving On

It’s sad to watch things slowly decline over time. Businesses that once offered stellar customer service and no longer do, teams that long ago ceased to operate like well-oiled machines, great relationships that have now grown cold and tired, and realizing that your perspective on improving an organization is neither valued nor wanted. These changes can be so gradual that their effects go unseen at first, perhaps even for years. Eventually, however, it becomes clear that something is wrong and must be fixed. Once this happens, without immediate and often drastic action to make things as they should be at every level, the negative changes will only continue to accumulate and create more problems. The difficult part is doing your best to fix those problems, especially when there are a number of things that are beyond your control. It becomes heartbreaking when you realize that all your efforts were for naught and you’d be better off looking for something else.

This is where you’re faced with a choice: continue trying to change this situation into how you’d like it to be or find something else that is already like that. If you have any hope of salvaging your current situation, you’ll probably stay there until your hope is completely depleted or you learn of something else that is much better in comparison. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom and seeing that this situation will only continue getting worse before you decide to look for a way out. It can be difficult to leave, especially if you’ve grown close to the people you met there and have invested a lot of time trying to fix problems. But if you’re burning yourself out trying to make a difference and it’s clear that you can’t, then it’s time to go.

Getting out of a bad situation and into a good one is the best thing you can do for yourself. It may also be just what the other people there need. If you’ve been going around and constantly fixing the mistakes of others, they have no incentive to do better because you’ll always be there to save them. But if you’re not there anymore, they’ll have to take responsibility and be more careful. And if some of them have been sticking around just because you’re there, then your absence might give them the incentive they need to leave and find something better for themselves. Either way, you’ll no longer be burdened with all the problems of that situation. You’ll be free to pursue something better and more in line with your values and interests. And you’ll be able to do much more good there than you ever could in a bad situation.

I’ve been doing this for a while now and it’s dramatically improved my life. Even though I’m not completely out of the woods yet, I’m much happier and better off overall than I was before I started this. There were many things I was able to do immediately, and others that involved waiting for the right moment; once I knew that the time was right, I jumped at my opportunity. No matter where you are in life and how your situation looks, you can always do something to put yourself in a better position. The more areas of life in which you can do this, the more satisfying, fulfilling, and joyous your life will be. I’m finding this out for myself and loving every minute of it. I wish you all the best and hope you find something that works for you.

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“The Secret to Happiness”

This is a short story from The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. I love how Coelho uses it to encourage us to keep the important things in mind while still enjoying life. Without further ado, here’s the short story.

“A certain shopkeeper sent his son to learn about the secret of happiness from the wisest man in the world. The lad wandered through the desert for forty days, and finally came upon a beautiful castle, high atop a mountain. It was there that the wise man lived.

Rather than finding a saintly man though, our hero, on entering the main room of the castle, saw a hive of activity: tradesmen came and went, people were conversing in the corners, a small orchestra was playing soft music, and there was a table covered with platters of the most delicious food in that part of the world.The wise man conversed with everyone, and the boy had to wait for two hours before it was his turn to be given the man’s attention.

The wise man listened attentively to the boy’s explanation of why he had come, but told him that he didn’t time just then to explain the secret of happiness. He suggested that the boy look around the palace and return in two hours.

“Meanwhile I want to ask you do do something,” said the wise man, handing the boy a teaspoon that held two drops of oil. ‘As you wander around, carry this spoon with you without allowing the oil to spill.”

The boy began climbing and descending the many stairways of the palace, keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. After two hours, he returned to the room where the wise man was.

“Well,” asked the wise man, “did you see the Persian tapestries that are hanging in my dining hall? Did you see the garden that it took the master gardener ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”

The boy was embarrassed, and confessed that he had observed nothing. His only concern had been not to spill the oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

“Then go back and observe the marvels of my world,” said the wise man. “You cannot trust a man if you don’t know his house.”

Relieved, the boy picked up the spoon and returned to his exploration of the palace, this time observing all of the works of art on the ceilings and the walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around him, the beauty of the flowers, and the taste with which everything had been selected. Upon returning to the wise man, he related in detail everything he had seen.

“But where are the drops of oil I entrusted to you?” asked the wise man. Looking down at the spoon he held, the boy saw that the oil was gone.

“Well, there is only one piece of advice I can give you.” said the wisest of wise men. “The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world, and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon.”

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April Fool’s Day Fun

That was a fun post, wasn’t it?

It’s April Fool’s Day, the day of pranks, confusion, laughs, and increased skepticism. Rather than post something shocking or upsetting as some people like to do, I thought I’d simply make a fun, bizarre post. Unlike most of my posts, this one follows no consistent pattern or logic and is intended simply to be entertaining.

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I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and that it’s given you a fun little diversion. And, if you’re planning to pull any pranks today, I hope they’re lighthearted and enjoyable for the prankster, the prankee, and the onlookers alike. Thank you for reading this and Happy April Fool’s Day to you.

Now, let’s start the post.

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Changes

Transitioning from one place in life to another can be scary, even if the new situation is far better than the old one. There is a great deal of uncertainty involved with not knowing if it’ll work out. If the change involves learning something new, then getting a feel for that and building effective routines around it will take time and come with some frustration and mistakes. And the thing that may be hardest of all is saying goodbye to the people you’ve come to know if they’re staying where they are while you move on. I suspect that the pain caused by parting with close friends is what keeps many people in a situation they’ve long since outgrown.

As difficult as change can be, it’s sometimes necessary and can lead to some wonderful things. For example, how many people slave away at jobs they hate and feel like they’re dying a little on the inside every day? Then when they clock out, they feel worse than before they went in and either try desperately to make themselves feel alive again by going all out after work or go home while dreading the thought of getting up the next day and doing it all again. Many people see this as inevitable in the modern age, but it doesn’t have to be this way.

It’s quite possible for you to get to a better place, a place that will provide you with more opportunities for growth, success, and fulfillment. What’s more, you’ll feel better at the end of the day than you did at the beginning because you’ll love what you do and enjoy spending time with the people around you. Each new day will be filled with a sense of wonder and joy, and you’ll be glad you chose to make the changes that made this possible. That’s how some people already live. They chose to follow their dreams and figured out how to make them come true, and this allows them to do things that most people think are impossible. They probably had a lot of difficulty getting to that position, and they undoubtedly experience a lot of fear along the way. But they kept going because they wanted something different out of life and were willing to risk everything to get where they wanted to be. Right now these people are the exception, but I think they may someday be the norm. So many ideas about how life works are falling apart and that opens up a lot of possibilities for different ways of living life. While I don’t know what the future holds for all of us, I’m looking forward to finding out and enjoying the ride along the way.

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